Single? 4 Steps to Finding Your Perfect Match!
Valentine's Day is approaching once again. That dreaded holiday that seems to have ONE purpose for single people: to remind you that you are, in fact, single. You cannot walk into a Walmart without being bombarded by the "red and pink section" - the chocolate, the cards, the candy hearts... If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.
So you've discovered those online websites aren't all that they've cracked up to be? Here are four no-fail steps to finding that perfect match.
Step 1: Identify EXACTLY what you’re looking for…
Grab a notebook and write down ALL of the qualities that you’re looking for in a partner. Are you looking for someone who’s honest, genuine, physically attractive, funny, hard worker, all of the above? BE SPECIFIC and write it down.
If you’re creative and artistic, make a vision board out of it – use colors, words cut from magazines and any other fun things you can add to it. If not, slap it in a notebook and leave it at that. It’s important to identify what you’re looking for before you head out into the dating pool. It seems shallow, but it’s really not…
Action Step: Create your list!
Step 2: Have Fun…
Now that you’ve identified what you want – put it aside and go enjoy yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in the search. Do what you love, have fun, and FORGET that you’re looking. THAT’S WHEN THE MAGIC HAPPENS! When you’re doing the things that you love, you will find other people doing what they love and eventually you’ll be doing what you love with someone you love doing it with. Huh?
It's easy to obsess over the things we don't have. Focus on what you do have and create positive energy around it. If you get caught up in..."but I just want someone in my life..." you're creating negative energy and lack in that area of your life. Create abundance and positive energy by having fun and surrounding yourself with people you love.
Action Step: Do at least one thing YOU LOVE to do this week!
Step 3: Take a risk, leave fear behind you...
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If you’re not feeling just a little bit scared, then you’re too close to your comfort zone. Good things can happen in your comfort zone…but GREAT things happen when you leave it. I remember feeling terrified when I first decided to join the local climbing gym…by myself. What if I don’t find anyone to climb with? What if…okay, there were no other arguments. Was that the only one I could come up with?
When you feel the fear, ask yourself those specific questions as to what you’re REALLY afraid of. Usually when you can narrow it down, it’s not as scary. I joined the gym and made some awesome friends. I was never short of a climbing partner when I needed one.
Action Step: Take at least one healthy risk this week...
Step 4: Exude Confidence
If you don’t love yourself, it’s hard to believe it when someone else loves you. You set those standards in Step 1 and then you think you’re not good enough for someone that AWESOME to come into your life. So…you settle for someone who doesn’t meet your desired standards, doesn’t treat you like the King or Queen that you are and complain about the mess that is your relationship. How silly is that?
Write down those qualities that you KNOW you can offer to someone who will be LUCKY to have you! If they don’t appreciate you…guess what…they’re not worth your time. Write all of those fabulous qualities down in your notebook or create another beautiful vision board…of YOU with all of your AWESOMENESS.
Action Step: Write down the qualities that YOU can offer to a partner!
If you faithfully complete all these steps and are not matched within a year, call me for a free session. If you need help completing these steps…call me, for a free session.
If all else fails, get a dog. They’re less maintenance.